12 responses to “Talking to your teens about sex”

  1. nikki

    Well, I must say that I would have many conversations at all different ages before college. In fact we used the whole JamieLynn Spears thing as a conversation starter. My 10 year old was adamant that teenagers should NOT be making babies ESPECIALLY if they aren’t married. So, we had a discussion about choices people make and what we think is right for our family.
    But, other things I would clarify would be basically, “What is sex?” There is a trend that it’s not sex if it’s oral. The teens would need to realize that they are still in danger from disease and emotional issues from this too.

  2. Mommy Warrior

    I agree that the discussion of sex should start way before college, but these are great questions to add to that discussion with your child matures. I’m also a firm believer that the greatest way to guide your children toward making good decisions about sex is to raise them to respect themselves and their bodies. Then they won’t view sex as a way to validate themselves or to make someone else like them.

  3. Brad

    I beleive teaching kids about subjects like sex and drugs starts long before you start trying to teach them about such things. Teach them right from wrong at a young age and lead by example. I will never be a ‘do as I say not as I do’ type of parent.

  4. Momo Fali

    Well, I haven’t started asking questions yet, because my oldest is only nine. But, I’m going to start these conversations (and asking questions) early.

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  6. Jasmine

    Well i believe that if you are an teen and you are having sex its kind of difficult to talk to your parents about sex because how can you let your mother know that your sexually active…..

  7. nikki

    Jasmine, totally. I would never have talked to my mom about it. Shoot, I’m an adult and I still don’t want to talk to my mom like that and I have 2 kids. However, why do I feel that way? Because my parents just brushed all that aside and didn’t give me the feeling that I could talk to them about things. I’m hoping that my child will be able to be open. Not necessarily saying, “Hey, I had sex.”, but to at least come to me and say that they really feel strongly about this person and go from there. I don’t WANT all the details of it, but if they want to talk about it, then I need to be available.

  8. Gigi

    I love the suggestion to ask real questions, probably the best way to end up having a real conversation. I think it’s great advice on an issue you want to discuss with your child, not just sex.

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