December 2nd, 2011 / 8 Comments
(This is the continuation of the series on Discipling Our Children.)
If you are not an only child, perhaps you have felt that your parents loved your siblings more than you. Or maybe you were the one loved more.
Now that you are the parent, you know that parents have enough love to go around, and you merely love each child differently. But unfortunately, children don’t see it that way.
The best way to dispel that perception is to spend one-on-one time with each child. By doing so, you strengthen the relationship with each one, understand more deeply their needs so that you can disciple them accordingly.
Let me make it clear that the one-on-one time is not for rebuking or for lecturing. Let’s say you schedule to go out to McDonald’s once a month with your son/daughter. If you use that time to criticize them about their poor study habits, what do you think will happen next month for your date together? He/she will not be very enthusiastic, to say the least, and will in fact dread the very thought of spending time with you.
The way to spend one-on-one time is to put it on your calendar to go out with each of your children each month – to just hang out. Enjoy each other’s company, enjoy the food, have a few laughs, tell them about your childhood. This will open their heart for you to speak into their lives during other teachable moments.