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Adventures in Parenting: Raising Good Kids

Magicstick charger

It’s only 2pm and my iPhone battery is already down to 28%. I hate it when that happens! I’m out running errands and can’t charge my phone. What if the battery runs out and I miss a call from my daughter at school? There could be some emergency and no one will be able to reach me.

Magicstick_in-use-BlueMagicstick is the solution! This slim charger fits in my purse, and even in my pocket. My phone, or other digital device, can be charged as fast as an electrical outlet. It only weighs a couple of ounces so it doesn’t weigh down my purse like a big bulky charger. I even use the Magicstick at home so I can be charging my phone while using it without being tied to the wall or my computer. I recharge the Magicstick at night, and it’s ready the next day.

Next week when my daughter stays overnight at her friend’s house, she’ll be taking the Magicstick with her to charge her phone. It will give her up to two full charges before the charger needs to be recharged. That’s enough for any overnight trip without having to worry about finding an outlet. Think camping or a day outing.

Some cool features – brilliant fun colors to choose from; easy to use, no set up or complicated buttons to mess with; USB cable included; super light and easy to carry everywhere. There’s a battery indicator light. Click it and if it’s red, you better charge it. It’s better to just make it a habit to charge it every night so you’ll always have it ready.

Just make sure you carry your own charging cable, which I put in the little bag that comes with the Magicstick.

Disclosure: I was not compensated in any way to write this post except for a complimentary Magicstick for review.




Back to school stress relieve

“It is so hard to wake up early for school!”

Yes, back to the real world of schedules, classes and homework!

Here are 3 quick tips on how to make back to school a little more palatable for your children.

  1. Put something special in their lunch box. A big homemade cookie, a small bag of sour gummy worms, or simply cutting the crust off the sandwich makes lunch seem gourmet for me. Don’t forget a written note of “I love you.”
  2. Take your child to an office supply store and pick out something that would enhance their homework station. Doesn’t a new pen motivate you to write neater? It works for me.
  3. While you’re at the office supply store, have your child pick out a few extra school supplies and take them to a school in a lower economic area.  Education should not be taken for granted, and many children cannot afford basic school supplies. Let your child experience the pleasure of giving.




Learning from our children

Recently my daughter pointed out a flaw in the way I treat people. My immediately reaction was, “That’s not true, I’m not like that! You just don’t understand the real world.”

But upon honest reflection, she was right.

Do you find it hard to receive criticism from your children? Do you brush them off with an attitude of “You don’t know how it really is in the adult world. You’re too young to understand”?

Children can see with clarity what we as adults are often too jaded to see. If you react to your child’s criticism with defensiveness, you could be missing out on cleaning up a blindspot in your life.

Next time your child says something like, “You’re mean!”, take a moment to see you from their vantage point. Be honest with yourself. Are you being more harsh than you need to be?

Learning from the innocent eyes of our children is one of the benefits of being a parent.

Bruce Feiler: Agile programming–for your family

This is worth the 18 minutes of this TED talk.

I like the family meeting concept.


Talking to teenagers about s-e-x

“Surveys indicate that four out of five teenagers rarely talk to their parents about sex.”

That’s not a surprise to anyone.

“Yet most indicate they would like to do so. One of the surveys asked, ‘Whom would you most like to talk to you about sex: teacher, counselor, minister, friends, parents?’ The majority responded, ‘My parents.’”

That does surprise me!

“Whose job is it to begin the discussion of sex? Most parents have been mistaken idea that ‘if my son wants to talk to me about sex, he will ask.’ Actually, she won’t… if a parent who is waiting for his teenager to bring up the subject really understood the conflict going on in his youngster, he would force himself to open the conversational door.”

Here are some questions you can use to open the conversational door:

- Do any of your friends have boyfriends/girlfriends? What do you think of that?

- Do you know anyone at school who is promiscuous? What do you think of that?

- What does the school teach about STDs (Sexual Transmitted Diseases)? What do you know about them? Do you know the one guarantee method to avoid STD?

(Quotes taken from Sex Education is for the Family by Tim LaHaye)


Family Worship

The concept that families should be the place for spiritual development has been largely lost. In our current culture, parents rely on the church to take their place.

When I read this in the February issue of the California Southern Baptist periodical, it seemed like a radical idea, but I like it! I wish we can do this at our churches!

Baptists of yesteryear promoted family altars and personal devotional time.  My earliest memory of the Alabama Baptist church is one that met quarter time. The church had Sunday school each week, but the preacher came only once a month to lead corporate services.  Later, “preaching” was held every other week.

Families are expected to read the Bible and prayed together each day.  In addition, everyone was encouraged to have a private devotional time when he or she got alone with God to read His Word and pray.…

When Christians renew their private, personal worship times with the Lord, then, I believe, we will see a difference in the quality of our corporate worship experiences before Him.  (By Bob Terry)


My new adventure

You haven’t heard from me recently because I started a new adventure!

At the beginning of the year, I took on the position as the Children Director at a church near my house. I am very thankful that God opened the door for me to step into this full-time position. It’s a place where I can continue my mission of speaking to parents as well as influencing kids. I’ve survived the first 2 months; it’s been both challenging and fun! I look forward to work everyday, and I know I’m very fortunate to be able to say that.

This means that I have less time to blog, but I intend to continue since I can share with you the lessons I am learning through the parents and kids that I work with.

The first lesson I’ve learned is, every child needs to be loved. In a group of 150 kids, it’s the troublemakers who gets the attention. All the prayers go to him/her! But the quiet and compliant child needs our care and prayers too. They tend to blend in the background, and could get neglected. I make it a point to seek them out to give them a word of love and encouragement.

What a joy it is to have a part in the lives of children.

Discipling children: Spending one-on-one time

(This is the continuation of the series on Discipling Our Children.)

If you are not an only child, perhaps you have felt that your parents loved your siblings more than you. Or maybe you were the one loved more.

Now that you are the parent, you know that parents have enough love to go around, and you merely love each child differently. But unfortunately, children don’t see it that way.

The best way to dispel that perception is to spend one-on-one time with each child.  By doing so, you strengthen the relationship with each one, understand more deeply their needs so that you can disciple them accordingly.

Let me make it clear that the one-on-one time is not for rebuking or for lecturing.  Let’s say you schedule to go out to McDonald’s once a month with your son/daughter.  If you use that time to criticize them about their poor study habits, what do you think will happen next month for your date together?  He/she will not be very enthusiastic, to say the least, and will in fact dread the very thought of spending time with you.

The way to spend one-on-one time is to put it on your calendar to go out with each of your children each month – to just hang out.  Enjoy each other’s company, enjoy the food, have a few laughs, tell them about your childhood.  This will open their heart for you to speak into their lives during other teachable moments.

Discipling children: Engaging their doubts

(This is the continuation of the series on Discipling Our Children.)

If you are a Christian and want to raise your children to embrace a life of faith in Jesus Christ, I can guarantee you that at some point, in fact at many points, your children will have doubts about the beliefs that you taught them.  Even though we take them to Sunday school, children’s church, and youth group, and maybe they attend Christian school, and we may even study the Bible with them at home, those “apologetics” issues will nag at their minds.  They may sincerely want to believe, but in the back of their minds, they are asking, “Why does God allow good people to suffer?”, “Isn’t it narrow-minded to believe that Jesus is the only way?”  I know this to be true because we as adults, though we are convinced of our faith, will continue to have some of those same questions.

Rather than expecting our children to blindly believe what we teach them, it is healthy for them to engage their doubts and seek answers.

However, very few kids will talk to their parents about their questions.  Growing up in the church, they will think that it’s unacceptable and even sinful to have questions.  And they will think that we will get upset if they ask, and start preaching at them. Most likely we have not given them a safe place to talk about their doubts.  So if your kids do not voice their doubts, it doesn’t mean they don’t have questions.

So I suggest that we be the one to bring up the questions, and challenge the children to think critically.  “What are some reasons why we believe in God?”  “How do you feel when God does not answer your prayers?”  “Do you ever wonder if there really is a heaven and hell?”

This is just a way to open the conversation so that our children will know that it is okay to have questions. Remember don’t preach or get too excited.  Let them know that it is healthy to have questions.  The next step is to honestly look for answers in the spirit of humility.  Let your children know that even as adults we have questions, but our faith is based on what we know, not what we don’t know.

Next post: Discipling your children – Spending one-on-one time


I want to dwell just a little bit more on Thanksgiving before we move on to Christmas.

For most of our kids, it’s not a hard task for them to tell you what they are thankful for. They are asked to do this at school and at church, and you can expect them to come up with the usual list: I am thankful for my family, my house, food, my dog/cat/turtle/gold fish, my bicycle, etc.

When I taught the preschoolers at church about Thanksgiving, I gave them a slightly deeper lesson that we as adults often forget.

“You may say to yourself, ‘My power and the strength of my hands have produced this wealth for me.’ But remember the LORD your God, for it is he who gives you the ability to produce wealth,…” ~ Deuteronomy 8:17-18

The children learned to say, “God gave me the ability.” If God did not give us our hands, our feet, our eyes, our brains, we would not be able to have everything that’s on our list, and we would not be able to even enjoy what we have.

A belated Thanksgiving post today, remembering that God gave me the ability.