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Building a positive home

January 3rd, 2009 / 4 Comments

“Would you want to come home to yourself?”

That question changed my life.

Would I want to come home to hear myself nagging at me?

Would I want to come home to be criticized by me?

Would I want to come home to negativity, pestering, and meanness?

If I don’t want to come home to me, why would my children and my husband want to come home to me?

What kind of home am I creating for my children and my husband?

Asking myself the question “Would I want to come home to myself?” changed the way treat my family. Building a positive home where I would want to come home is now my goal.

Here were a few things I changed:

1. Stop using harsh words. “Please” and “thank you” are magic words for adults to use too.

2. Allow mistakes to be made. I learn through my mistakes and made plenty of them. Why should I be so hard on my children when they make mistakes?

3. Don’t be overly controlling. The laundry doesn’t have to be done exactly my way.

4. Laugh more. There must be humor in a burnt pot. More laughter can only be a good thing.

5. Talk less, listen more. I am sure I can cut out 30% of my words and no one will miss them.

What can you do to make you want to come home to yourself?

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  1. I do believe that it is important to built a home where by kids can be comfortable and grow positivity without the shouting screaming and threatening.

  2. Dominique: I agree. Unfortunately, in some homes, shouting and screaming is the norm.

  3. I can definitely listen MORE. I notice a HUGE response from my spirited 7 year old when I can put everything aside to give him my 100% attention when he’s telling me a story. One of my resolutions, for sure.

    Miss you Katy! Hope you had a wonderful holiday season!!

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