July 16th, 2008 / 18 Comments
My mother-in-law often says, “If you treat people well, they will treat you well.”
Do we want our kids to obey us, respect us, and be civil to us?
Then we have to do our part not to annoy our children.
Of course, if I am doing the right thing and my kids don’t like it, I don’t care.
But honestly, our kids get annoyed with us for good and right reasons. We can be pretty annoying, can’t we?
My kids told me 5 things that I do that bothers them:
1. Tell them to do several things at once and expect them to do it all at the same time.
“Go pick up your socks. It’s your turn to wash the dishes. And don’t forget to write a thank you card to your grandma. Why haven’t you picked up your sock yet?”
You told me to wash the dishes, mom!
“Don’t leave the dishes in the sink like that!”
You told me to pick up my socks, mom!
“Don’t talk back to me, just do what I tell you to do!”
2. Talk about them to my friends. When us moms get together, we can’t help ourselves but talk about the funny, silly and cute things that our kids do.
“Honey,” I tried to explain to my kids.Â “I’m just telling my friends about it because what you did was so cute!” No, our kids don’t want to be cute. It invades their privacy and they feel like everything they do is fair game for us tell the whole world. They become an object of stories that get passed around. Really, they don’t want us to tell our friends how “cute” they are…
3. Make them go shopping with me. Pretty self-explanatory why kids don’t want to shop in the women’s department. Would you want to spend 2 hours in the plumbing department looking at wrenches and gaskets?
4. Interrupt them while they are trying to explain. When our children try to explain themselves,Â for example –
“I wasn’t talking in class. I was just…”
“I don’t care what you had to do. You were talking when the teacher told you not to and you’re grounded!”
We parents think we know it all. But even the Supreme Court gives the defendant a chance to tell their side before pronouncing the verdict and punishment. So I can definitely see why this annoys our kids.
5. Being too busy to listen to them when they want to talk.
“Wait, I’m on the phone. Tell me later.”
“I have to get this email out right now. Tell me later.”
“Let me take the casserole out of the oven. Tell me later.”
And Later never comes, or the urgency is gone. “Nevermind, I don’t want to tell you anymore.”
And that’s why our kids never tell us anything.
Can you blame them?
What annoys your kids?